I’ve been reflecting on the idea of ‘fair’ over the last few weeks as I process through a broad range of situations and conversations that range from racism to dealing with change, from major health concerns to lack of finances, from disciplining children to global poverty, and so forth and so on.pout - fair

I have come to two conclusions.

  1.  The expectation that life should be fair is usually more the issue than the actual problem
  2. In most cases, the problem isn’t really about fair as much as I didn’t get what I want.

So, what do you think of these definitions?

Need (from the mind of Bryan):  American slang for “want.”

Fair (from the mind of Bryan):   American slang for “rules established to meet my ‘needs’”

Fair (from the dictionary): Free from bias, dishonesty, or injustice: a fair decision; a fair judge.

Below is a more poetic way to think about it that I have found helpful.

There is a secret wisdom-of-the-ages

that holds the key to breaking

our cycle of self-imposed suffering.

The secret wisdom is,

“Life is not supposed to be fair.”

Get over it – Life isn’t Supposed to be fair.

You don’t have the power to make life “fair,”

but you do have the power to make life joyful.

Get over yourself, and be of service to others.

“Fair” is not a useful concept.

Life is not “fair.”

You can’t make life “fair.”

You can get angry.

You can complain about life not being “fair.”

You can attempt revenge – perhaps violently.

You can inflict great suffering upon yourself

in the name of life being “unfair.”

And Life is still not “fair.”

– Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Categories: Poverty, Reflections
  1. Lionel Campoz
    June 24, 2013 at 4:08 am

    as always your thoughts are interesting… someone new came to the SS class this week and he’s been in all imaginable religions under the sun. His determination is that all who do bad are punished with terminal diseases and poverty and other stuff. What a pitiful mindset that thinks that God is blessing those who behave and abandoning in suffering those who commit a sin.

     Blessings to you Bryan!

    Lionel Campoz


    • Bryan
      June 24, 2013 at 10:41 am

      Lionel – great to hear from you. And… happy birthday. I have always thought that the idea that poverty comes as a result as some punishment for being bad, lazy, unfaithful, ect… to be odd. I always have always wondering that if everything karma like thinking was true, we would all be in trouble. ha

  2. June 26, 2013 at 6:34 pm

    This is an excellent sample of good quality writing. You have made sound points with interesting content. This is really great work obviously written by a true talent! Thank you.

    • Bryan
      July 8, 2013 at 12:31 pm

      Thank you for you kind compliments.

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